Many years ago I began reading books by David Spangler. His writings about the spiritual nature of the world excited me. A few years back our paths crossed and I renewed my interest in his writings. We’ve had a number of conversations since and he recently (2008) published a short book entitled: Crafting Home-Generating the Sacred. It’s influenced my thinking about home building. In it he writes:
“Home is a state in which life and wholeness are fostered and nourished. A dwelling place is one expression of that, a place where we can feel safe and upheld, able to be ourselves, …”
Crafting a home is the act of creating a dwelling in which we feel safe. A home which holds and supports us.
How often do we consider our homes as holding and supporting ourselves and our families? We think of them as containing our personal possessions, from our cars to our toothbrushes. But my house doesn’t puts its walls around me when I walk in the door. How do I feel then, when I close the door and step into my home? Do I take the time to notice? As I step into my own house, there’s often a sense of relaxation. Sometimes I first need to change out of my work clothes, but then I know that I’m home and I can drop many of the issues that confronted me during my day.
I’m fortunate because I can go home each evening. I’m not traveling and staying in motels nor am I homeless. But what if I was? What are the supporting functions that would be gone from my life. Some are obvious: no walls, no roof then I’m vulnerable to the weather–cold, hot, snow, rain. But thinking about my life, where do I sleep, eat, excrete, make love, bathe, listen to music, read, watch TV, meditate, brush my teeth? On the whole our homes support practically every function that enhances the well being of our life and that of our family. In a very real way my life is held together by having a home.
I want to examine this quality of holding more closely. Again quoting from Crafting Home:
“At its most basic level, Home as a quality is this quality of Holding; it is a fundamental (quality of) space. …
Holding also actively allows and creates the conditions for an activity to take place. Holding makes space come alive. It is the difference, for instance, between a house and a home.”
Often we consider holding as a passive activity, like a cup holds our coffee. But thinking more about the quality of holding shows that it has an active quality. When I hold a friend in high esteem, I value and honor our friendship. My thoughts and feelings towards my friend are actively caring and considering them. When I engage my thoughts, feelings and body in crafting a space for a home, I am honoring a dwelling. I am holding this space, this house, and imbuing it with the potential of becoming a home.
It is a home that holds us–supports us. A house can keep the rain off our heads but a home has the power to nurture us. A home allows a family to grow, to share and expand their lives. A home is where the art of our lives can unfold. When we paint our dreams on the canvass of our life, our home is the frame that holds that canvass. From our homes, our life radiates out to our professions,
our schooling, our friendships, our neighbors.
The support of a home comes from not just the walls of the house but from our hearts dwelling within it. We fashion our home as much as from the love, care and consideration that we give to it and to the people with whom we share it, as from the materials from which it’s built and the objects with which we furnish it.
When I read David Spangler’s writing:
“Home is a space that holds us in our sacredness and allows that sacredness to unfold in appropriate ways, … ”
I recognize that each of us has a greater potential to craft a place we call home.












